So this post is mean't to be a pre-reading review and prediction of what I can expect from a book I will be reading. I promised my friends I would read the self-help book "The Secret" written by Rhonda Byrne in 2006. For the record I am not reading it because I think I need help, (although who knows haha) only because my friends recommended it. The book received critical acclaim after appearances on the Ellen DeGeneres show and Oprah.

"The Secret" seems to me to be just like every self-help book ever made with the central theme being, positive thinking. I can hear the adults of my childhood repeating the phrase in various forms like a mantra. "If you set your mind to something, you can do anything!" "If you think positively, you can accomplish anything!" The formulations are endless. I do understand the possible effects of a positive attitude and positive action. If you do set your focus to a task, oftentimes you can achieve what you desired! However, there is a grave difference between this loose association with positivity and declaring such assertions as fact. Most adults can recognize such anecdotal phrases as the feel good nonsense it is. However, the dangerous aspect of Byrne's book is that it is rooted in "science." I put science in quotations because the "science" Byrne quotes can truly not be regarded as such. "The Secret" described in the book relies on the Law of Attraction, which is another misguided title. This theory is ANYTHING but a law of nature. In fact, from what I have read of it, it seems to be somewhat of a joke amongst the science community for the exact reasons I will describe shortly. There is, however, a trend in this modern age of science away from religious belief into a kind of faith in all that is science. That is, such a faith in science that anything labeled as science automatically becomes like that of the word of a God. When in fact science is mean't to be a continuing doubt about all that we supposedly know. Nietzsche and Richard Dawkins, great minds of the 19th century and modern day, both warn against making this kind of a religion out of science. The word "law" in general has all but been tossed from the scientific vernacular in favor of "theory" which is far more acceptable due to its lack of definitude.
So, the "Law" of Attraction and "The Secret." From what I am told of this book, by following four principles you can achieve anything! Yes folks, ANYTHING! Props to wikipedia for the exact wording of the principles:
  1. Know exactly what you want.
  2. Ask the universe for it.
  3. Feel, behave and know as if the object of your desire is already yours (visualize).
  4. Be open to receive it and let go of (the attachment to) the outcome.
Well what can be said about something that is in no way verifiable. Just as prayer operates, reported results and testimonials to the truth of the theory of attraction will always affirm its truth! Very few people who believe in a deity, when their prayers do not come true, reject their belief. In the same way, when a prayer does come true, the success will be attributed to the deity. It is a win win situation for the deity, he/she can truly do no wrong! The same principles hold true for "The Secret" and the theory of attraction. (Although, as any reader of this blog may know, I would much prefer a belief in "The Secret" than a belief in a deity.) Thinking really hard about your desires in the four manners above does not "manifest" your desire!
Now why would I use the words "moral depravity" in regards to this book? I mean it is just mean't to help people! Right? I see it vastly different due to the discussion I had with my friends about their perceptions of "The Secret." The most overwhelming perception of the theory of attraction was that if you had it on your side there is no such thing as something that is impossible! The example I used to debate against this position was a small child who lives in a third world country, suffering from poverty, starvation, war, and all manner of horrible pain and suffering. Now, the application of "The Secret" here holds that if that boy knew what he wanted, asked the universe for it, visualized his goal, and was open to it, the universe, in all of its bounty would grant his desires. And how can we imagine such a boy as doing anything other than all of those things. It is quite impossible for someone to tell me that boy most obviously wants better things for himself than war, poverty, and starvation. One principle down. I can imagine the same boy looking deep into the sky, (much like someone praying to a God would) and wishing for a respite. Two principles down. The same boy most definitely can imagine what it feels like to eat a lot, to be hungry, to have money, to not live in wartime. I would equate visualization to imagination. Three principles down. And as for being open to receiving such things, I can say again with confidence, that boy would have no problem. Well it seems that he has satisfied the qualifications to be provided for. But wait, such conditions persist, and the world still spins round, suffering and all. The only principle from this formula that makes sense is the first one. In terms of self-help the notion of knowing what you want is indeed important.
Now, I was told, that boy basically just must not be doing it right. There is something deprave to me in a book that teaches the lesson that nothing is impossible! It seems like a sentiment that goes against all things good and proper. Who would say such a thing! That just reeks of a lack of ambition, a quitter's mentality. Quite the opposite to me! The sentiment that nothing is impossible reeks to me of an exorbitantly wealthy outlook on the world. No it is another cold reality that nobody is willing to realize. We most definitely live in a world of limited free will, where our choices are entirely dependent on the many socioeconomic factors of our lives. So on that note I would call the positive thinking that "The Secret" describes, positive bulls*#t. But I will report my feelings after reading the book.

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I wanted to revise the post I made earlier in the year about love here. Much of what I said in that post I would still maintain, but wanted to change some things and also clear up some misconceptions I heard from friends about that post after I posted it.


I do not think romanticism is the proper way to approach love.
I don't believe in true love.
And I do think that relationships are simply best friends who have sex.
I have also revised my thoughts on the application of a quantitative over a qualitative view of love.

The misconception many people voiced to me after the original post was that somehow I came off as not believing in love at all. Which could not be further from the truth! I believe wholly that love is in fact one of the most powerful motivating forces in the world, if not THE most powerful. I just make the distinction between love and the metaphysical approach to love (romanticism and true love).

I do still think that in theory such open relationships I discussed in the aforelinked post are in fact reasonable and perhaps ideal. However, in practice they become nigh impossible. Love while unbelievably strong is also unbelievably fragile. Where it is the emotional ties that make love, it is also the inherent weakness of human emotion that makes them liable to break. I say break because although love once achieved can fracture, it should never dissipate. So the Don Juanism mentioned in the other post, although still understandable and in fact perhaps ideal, is far less feasible. I had to reexamine Camus' conception of quantity over quality in terms of love again. I have indeed NEVER thought that the highest form of love could be felt for more than one person at a time, but that whilst loving a single individual wholeheartedly, one could simultaneously partake in the superficial "love" of others. For there are most definitely gradations of love. And always the singular "higher" love will be preferable to any number of other simultaneous affections. If we introduce Millian Hedonic values as an example, the experience of love in its greatest form has an infinite intensity, an unknown duration, and the highest quality. Whereas no matter of simultaneously occurring superficial, but lesser loves could equate to such a value. There is in fact no comparison.
(Hedonism is the view that the best possible course of action is that which has the end result with the most pleasure and the least pain, Bentham and then Mill tried to give the theory a kind of quantitative formula, for Mill who expanded on Bentham's formula, there were three factors: intensity, duration, and quality, these three factors were weighed for both pleasure and pain. The product of those three factors pleasure values was divided by the product of those three factors pain values. The course of action with the greatest pleasure value wins! yay!)

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So this post is perhaps simply a validation for me of my passion, that being philosophy. It seems absolutely absurd even to myself to describe oneself as a philosopher since, once acquainted with the field of study, it is easy to see that every person in some way is a "philosopher." In this post I will do no justice to the "proper" definition of what the field of study entails. I wanted to provide my own reflection on what philosophy has meant for me and lead into a whole other host of random things I want to discuss.

Philosophy is for me both introspection and extrospection. Through the study of philosophy I have been made, I will say, MORE aware of the big questions in life, as well as a whole host of answers to those questions made by brilliant men throughout history. Then it is left up to you to sift through the questions, the answers available, your own observations, beliefs, and opinions to find the "answer" that you see most fit. It is a thought process, it is a defining of words and thereby the world and how you see it. It has changed absolutely everything about the way I see myself, the world, and my place in the world. This is obviously my own passionately biased opinion, but I don't know how it is not a mandatory curriculum at the high school and collegiate level. Every person should take a lot of time to ponder their answers to those questions that philosophy lends itself to asking.
On love
On death
On God
On the soul and the mind
On the afterlife
On whether or not we are free or fated
On morality
On the values you hold dearest and more importantly why
On happiness
On culture
On politics
On society
On... everything

The most important tools an individual can have I think is an inquiring mind. The child who keeps asking, "Why?" seems to me the most brilliant! Somewhere along the road to adulthood people settle on answers to the above questions and rarely again are forced to re-evaluate these thoughts.
Any one who reads this blog knows I love Camus who said, "An intellectual is someone whose mind watches itself." We should strive everyday to call into doubt (in true Cartesian fashion) everything we hold to be true about the world. To never become so rigid in a belief system as to reject all else. To be constantly conscious and vigilant of the world, your experiences, and revise your whole self daily! Change is the only constant! Rigidity of belief is fodder for extremism. Something I have come to recently is that the only proper way to approach most every subject is with some level of moderate belief. For as a "philosopher" (insert hoity toity (sp?) air here) no matter what strongly held belief you propose, there is a justification for the opposing position. For instance, some ethics 100, if you believe in fate, you are not morally obligated to think that murder is a bad thing, or to have moral considerations at all. For a hard belief in fate equates to no control over one's actions. Therefore, murderers can't be held responsible for what they do. Now, obviously this is just an example of an extreme belief being justified, that is that no one is morally responsible. Anyways, I will end the rant here.
Just reevaluate. Doubt. Change. Analyze with the utmost scrutiny your own actions, behaviors, beliefs. Question what led you to those precise ways of being and whether the justifications for those paths are ones that should continue to guide you or whether change, big or small, is in order!

Comments and discussion greatly appreciated!! I do love to talk... hahaha

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Recently I saw a movie called The Bridge by director Eric Steel. The film is a documentary about people who chose to commit suicide by jumping off of the Golden Gate Bridge. Check out their website here. To quote the website:

"THE BRIDGE offers glimpses into the darkest, and possibly most impenetrable corners of the human mind... THE BRIDGE is a visual and visceral journey into one of life's gravest taboos."

This will be a short review for the above words describe the movie perfectly, but I highly recommend seeing it. Although of course inherently morbid and sad, the movie carries with it great insight and is undeniably powerful. The film brings that confrontation between life and death into full view. The viewer gets to hear from survivors, heroes, family, and friends. The movie also brings forward ethical questions about suicide and provides both sides of the argument. We see people whose friends do not attempt to stop them from committing suicide. One's first reaction is horror at this seeming lack of caring. Although my initial reaction to this was the same as my friend watching it with me, I have I think understood that position more since. If someone has their mind set on doing such a heinous thing what place is it for society and others to decide otherwise? Is life a personal choice? All questions that are definitely raised in THE BRIDGE. Check it out!

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Ok so this post I write for a friend who is a fan of such mysticism. So. Where to begin?

Psychics intrigue me the most. Simply because they have the greatest chance of proving themselves to me. As in, I want a psychic to tell me with great specificity things that have occurred in my life. When a psychic tells me how old I am, where I have lived my whole life, and the name of my best friend, without stealing my wallet, I may be somewhat amazed. However, until that time, the "psychics" that I have seen make the same kind of generalizations as the guys who write fortune cookie fortunes, except they have been practicing more. Psychics, the varsity fortune cookie club. HA.

However, the whole lot of mystics, psychics, palm readers, and tarot card readers alike are like philosophers in their own little way. That similarity being that they deal with definitions. They utilize language to legitimize their art. I imagine they are all quite professional at utilizing words that sound specific, but are truly quite vague. They also all deal in topics that are inherently general and difficult to grasp. Profound concepts such as love and the soul. For an example of these two qualms I have with such mysticism I put forward this test statement. "You will find new love in the near future." Now, such a sentence contains two extremely undefinable words. Love and near. The same friend who prompted me to write this was told and agreed that she had an "old soul." Such phrases mean absolutely nothing to me. Does that mean you are an old person at heart? That in some karmic way your spirit has been through many cycles of rebirth? That you cherish traditional old school values? That your spirit is old as in maybe tired or decrepit? The possibilities are endless and an individual is bound to find meaning in what they are told.

If anything the very coolest possibility mystics have for me is that they are simply very perceptive people. That having been introduced to you, heard your voice, seen your face, read your gestures and body language, they would more than others could assume some things about you. So I want someone to put out a neon sign that says, "Super Perceptive Individual Here: Come Talk For $5."

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1:06 PM

Regret

We are taught at a young age that perhaps the biggest way in which we will learn and grow as individuals is to make mistakes. That having all kinds of experiences, good and bad alike, will help us to gain perspective. Now the little proverb we all know about making mistakes and learning from them is quaint, in so far as the mistake is small. What we are not told when we are young is the kinds of mistakes it is better to not make. That although we may in fact grow and gain new perspectives from our mistakes and experiences, these lessons may come at great cost. That cost being regret. Here is a little argument:


1. Mistakes must be made in order for someone to learn and grow as an individual.
2. Some mistakes will also lead to regret.
3. If we must make mistakes to grow and some mistakes also lead to regret, then it is hard to live without regret.
4. Therefore, it is hard to live without regret.

My philosophical views call for life to be led, as best as is able, "without appeal." That is, a life without regret. A life without the desire to change the decisions and mistakes you have made. However, the argument I have proposed above shows, if you think it sound, that such a life is very hard to achieve. Let me know what you think! About regret, living and growing, mistakes and living with them!

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1:38 PM

My Reality

So here is my confession. I confess to pessimism in the traditional sense. I just never considered myself a pessimist since I see my outlook as only an attention to the way things actually are, simply reality. At only 20, I feel I have somehow seen the darker side of life. The real world unveiled in all of its cruel ABSURD beauty. This claim seems out of place coming from a young kid from a middle class family with all the opportunity in the world. You would expect such a claim to come from someone living in poverty, suffering, amidst war, or any other truly dark environment. However, in this post I only speak partially from personal experience. I will pull from personal experience as well as general commentary about the world. This worldview I speak of can be seen by anyone. However, people would do anything, ANYTHING to avoid having to look at the real world the way it actually is. Anything to avoid looking at themselves and all of their own faults. To avoid seeing the depth of human weakness. People will do anything to escape from reality. People use everything from movies and tv, to drugs and alcohol. I maintain that all four accomplish this task wonderfully. J As always, although I claim the things in this post to be “facts” about the world, it is really just my perspective. I credit my having this perspective to a certain mental power I seem to lack. That being the ability to eject thoughts from my brain just as quickly as they have entered. For I dwell and dwell and dwell on everything.

  • I realized that there is no purpose imbued in our lives. We are a biological machine subject to nature just like any other animal.
  • Death is omnipresent. It can strike at any time and any place. Any age and any fitness. It lends an everpresent uncertainty to life.
  • There is no such thing as truth or facts. Everything you know could change at some future time making the thing you know to be true, false. That is, things are only strongly verifiable, never definite, even natural laws.
  • People are greedy, power hungry, jealous, and selfish. We are unpredictable and fragile.
  • Dark reality: Sex appeal and beauty are of the utmost importance. Inner beauty is fantastic and people need to have and should have personality. But personality alone never won the Miss America competition. The phrase, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” is about as useful in its vagueness as the wisdom imparted by a fortune cookie.

  • Money DOES run the world. Money CAN buy some level of happiness and those without it, most often lead lives of intense struggle and suffering.

  • To quote a most recent book, “The historian Will Durant calculated that there have only been 29 years in all of human history during which a war was not underway somewhere.” (Hedges, 10) We cannot help but destroy each other!
  • I have seen love for what it truly is. For although love is a powerful emotion, it is not so powerful as all of pop culture makes it out to be. It has the ability to impact people extremely extremely deeply and influence them positively. It is perhaps one of the greatest feelings there is. However, its fragility makes it dangerous in its equal and opposite ability to cause pain and distress. There is no prince charming ladies (in the mythic sense that is, people will obviously imbue their lovers with such qualities). Love can’t overcome powerful obstacles as it is traditionally thought to. Love doesn’t stop wars or influence politics. Love doesn’t overcome infidelity or oftentimes even petty arguments.
  • I have seen the dark side of sex. I can quite unfortunately lay claim to passionless, loveless sex. To emptiness rather than fulfillment. And to using someone as a means to and end, rather than an end in and of themselves. I would in truth never tell these things if they didn’t reveal something profound to me. Such experiences, I would propose, are so startling in their coldness, so filthy in their truth, that they literally tear your eyes open. They lay bare your own weaknesses and strip much of the imagination we have about such things.

Sorry, but I must refer to Camus again when he says so eloquently, “There is no sun without shadow, and it is essential to know the night.” We feel most alive when we are completely lucid, when we are engaged in reality so inescapably. When you take away the movie quotes and scenes that play through your mind attached to a given scenario. When you shed the imports of society on your brain. When you call into doubt everything that you have not seen or experienced yourself.

The only thing that I care about is the people that I love, everything else is just a biological imperative to survive and thrive. All you can do is strive to be happy. This is the world that I live in. Where do u stand? What do you think? Am I just a grump? Please let me know what you think!! It can be just a word or two! Leave a comment! Or send me an email if you’re shy! I want to know how people feel about this stuff.

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